Duffy's Guest Book
We'd like you to share your experiences at Duffy's.
Please leave your comments in this public guest book so we can share your
thoughts with others.
Date: July 6, 2010
Hi everyone, I enjoyed the time I spent with the staff. I have been
clean and sober since June 11, 1989. My journey has taken me to having
a married life, graduate school and a job I enjoyed doing. Thank you
for everything.
- A friend, Oregon
Date: June 28, 2010
I came into Duffy's a broken man, not sure if I wanted to live or
die. After 28 days, with a sponsor in hand, my life changed. I love my
life & what it holds for me now. My future is bright, but only if I stay
connected - meetings, service, & my higher power. Thanks to all at
Duffy's, I owe you my life. - Your friend, Ross U.
Date: June 4, 2010
Well over 20 years ago, Duffy, his sons and staff allowed me the
opportunity to a new way of life. Since then I have celebrated not
only two decades of continuous abstinence, but also have watched my
sister get 14 years. My defunct family is changing our history. I am
now married to a recovering addict with 18 years clean and have been
blessed to be married to her for over ten years. I have two children 7
and 4. I have God in my life that this addict actually lets guide
me.....every now and then. I could go on and on. Still go to meetings,
I am involved in running a H & I meeting. Own my own business and
home.....I can be alone....and be OK. Duffy was truly, looking
back....an angel of mine (and others). I will never forget. 10-1-1989.
May it be the last. - Mark H. Brentwood, CA
Date: May 19, 2010
I was eating my lunch at work and reading some of the comments on the
Duffy’s guestbook and read Linda D, from Napa. I almost fell off my
chair. I was working at Duffy’s when you came in. You are so right when
you say "If I can do it, you can do it". You are truly a miracle. 19
years. WOW. I remember you well. It made my day hearing that you’re
still sober. I had 27 years on April 1. I miss Gene. He was a great
man. It’s amazing how far we come by taking only 12 steps. Thanks for
making my day.
- Mike M.
Date: April 22, 2010
I'm Marie--alumni 1985. My sister and her husband took me, totally
against my will (generally I would have put up a fight, or at least
run away)--but poor me, I was in a blackout! They had the courage to
drive several hours, in the middle of night, with the risk I’d wake
up--and then what? Sobriety was too scary--how could I have given up
the drugs and alcohol that i basically lived for. I'd already attended
over 100 12 step meetings. I could identify plenty. What they didn't
know about me was that I was unique! And in maintaining my "
independence", my well-kept appearances, I rationalized that I was
entitled to some privacy (isolation really). I could quit alcohol
anytime i wanted-"-well maybe not today"--or "what difference does it
make, one more day drinking/using?" I woke up at Duffy's--mad as all
get out! I cried, I swore, I threatened. Certainly they'd bounce me,
then I'd be free. And beneath my "better than" facade, I was very, very lonely and knew i was doomed. How could i possible stay quiet? The folks kept vigil, kept me safe--let me rave on, but wouldn't give up on me. They cared about me, until I could care about myself.
They accepted me, and I really felt I belonged. I cursed, I laughed,
ate the most amazingly delicious food, I swam every day. I was
surrounded by recovering folks from all walks of life--rich or
penniless, youngsters like me, or old-timers who hit a rough patch. Old
Duff was as endearing as he was forceful--he was fiery with
no-nonsense approach to sobriety. At the same time, we, all of us,
residents and staff alike, were enamored by Duffy. He shared with us
lifesaving tools of recovery, quenched our thirst with kindred
spirit, with compassion and humor. I had no idea or hope that
lasting sobriety was possible, let alone, really wonderful. If you've
only one shot left, let it be Duffy's. I have only the highest regard
for all the staff, and cannot imagine a better setting than Duffy's
of Myrtledale.- Thank you, Marie B.
Date: April 19, 2010
Oh,Wow! Where to begin? The year was 1990. My life was a mess, crashing around me. I was slandered by my employer, to the point I needed to do the work of 3 people for anyone to work with me. My marriage was in such disarrays, on a return from a family outing at my in laws, I remember seeing a 10 wheeler tractor trailer coming at me and wanting to swerve in front of it, to stop the lecturing I was getting from my wife, about my behavior. Lucky my children were in the car! I swear I would have done it! My life was rock bottom and I was a threat to the ones I love most, my family! My oldest son in his teens slept with a baseball bat because he feared me. I couldn't see any of it! I really didn't think I was that bad off! My Medical Doctor had me on a prescription of Halcion for my bad back. A sleeping aid perfectly safe, as long as you are under a doctor’s care, and under no circumstances use longer than 2 weeks. I was on my 3rd "year" of using it! Since then, it has been shown to cause violent behavior in people, up to and including, killing relatives. I was also drinking and had a cocaine addiction. In other words I was pretty messed up! The week before I entered Duffy's, my family ran from my home out of fear of me. I was looking for my shotgun because I fantasized I was being followed home by a cocaine dealer, and I needed to protect my family. That's when they had enough! I needed help! I needed help bad! Gene Duffy and his staff skillfully guided me through my rehab, and, I look back on those times as a real blessing! The skills you learn not only prepare you for your future, but, also prepare you for whatever life has in store for you in the next chapter of you life! My marriage didn't work out. I got divorced, but my ex and I talk daily. We still got to raise 3 wonderful sons and have a very good admirable relationship. Sometimes things are just meant to be! Life is good, what can I say but, Thank you Gene Duffy for being there in my time of need! - Garry C. Sacramento, Ca.
Date: April 10, 2010
Hi, my name is Linda. In 1992 it was the biggest day of my life. Why? that was the day I entered Mr Duffy's house, I had a choice to live or die. I chose to live. The hardest thing in my whole life to do was to come clean from drugs and alcohol. Mr Duffy and staff helped me and spent alot of time with me. I was there when Mr Duffy passed away, it broke my heart,to this day Mr Duffy is still my hero. He saved my life. On July 2010, I will have 19 yrs clean and sober may God Bless everyone that goes through Duffy's house.I would love to come and share my story again,if I can do it you can do it.- Linda D, Napa
Date: April 3, 2010
It was Good Friday of 2007 when I checked into Duffy's, ready to attempt this thing called sobriety. I was drinking and using up until 15 minutes before my sister was due to pick me up to take me there. After 28 days of counseling, fellowship, rest, and family-style food, I began my journey of recovery at home in the Bay Area. Following the suggestions I heard at Duffy's, I got a sponsor within one week after going to meetings daily. It has been challenging at times, but I am proud and grateful to say that I have not found it necessary to pick up a drink or drug since the day I walked into the doors of Duffy's. Thanks so very much for the rock-solid foundation you have me. I have a full, healthy life today and will celebrate 3 years on 4-7-10.- Karen E., South San Francisco CA
Date: February 28, 2010
I was a resident at Duffy's back in the summer of 2005 and I have to say it was not what I expected. Feeling more like a vacation than a recovery facility and the staff feeling more like friends went a long way for me in linking recovery to a positive experience. Having such a close-knit group as well as the expertise and experience of the staff got me on my way. Thank you guys a ton! 4 years and 2 months strong- Jeff G., Oregon
Date: September 14, 2009
I got sober at Duffy's on July 14th 1994. I have been back for several sobriety weekends. I will always have a spot in my heart for all the staff who helped me. thank you very much. My life is good now and it started at Duffy's. - Mike L., Santa Cruz
Date: July 2, 2009
Considering going to Duffy’s? By far best value anywhere. Stay 28 days, you can do it. The office will still be there. After a week at Duffy’s I thought I didn’t need help and I checked out. I sure wish I had gone 28 or for the weekends (excellent value) instead of my Huge Relapse. I have booked time to start over at Duffy’s after I am released from detention. See you there! -John, Bay area
Date: June 27, 2009
I entered this program on November 18, 2005 not knowing what to expect. I went in scared and nervous, but I learned quickly that I was among friends. What I learned at Duffy's has guided me through my life and will continue to guide me for a long time to come. I would just like to say thanks to all the people that work here and the people that support this wonderful place. -Scot J.
Date: June 12, 2009
I will swear my left one to this place, if you’re having a problem and can’t do it on your own, you found the right place. I just got home today and miss the wonderful staff, beautiful grounds and perfect food. I was beat and tired of taking pills and my addiction beat me to a pulp. These people know the best way to help you when you are at your worse. Not only that they have classes all day that teach you great tools and help you fight your addiction and find sobriety, you don’t have to do this alone. I ran myself dry and was in a bad spot of self-loathing, disgust and couldn’t stop the routine. It was tough and I thought the week was gonna drag but I ended up staying an extra day and miss it already. Can’t wait to be back for meetings, thanx Dan, Susan, Deb, Larry and Pat for helping me get a 2nd chance, I’ll reach someone else and give back to the program. -Forever grateful, Brian D. Ca.
Date: June 12, 2009
My last (of 3) trips to Duf's was in 1985. Duf used to BARK, "If you don't remember yer sobriety date, then you don't HAVE a damn sobriety date!" Well, 9-12-85, Gene! Duf used to also say (for those of us that knew him well) in his usual, kind, soft manner (HAW HAW) that "if you don't like feelin' guilty, that stop doin' whats makin' ya feel guilty!" Duf enjoyed getting right into your face with the ugly truth. For hard time five & dimers like me, it was the only thing that worked. So, for those who thought him too gruff, and too harsh, it was his way of getting the message to people like himself-the hardheaded bunch who probably would not have attained sobriety any other way. I miss Gene. And I'm too old to whup Gene Jr. one the golf course-(any more!)! But, THANKS TO DUF, I have 23 years! He would never claim responsibility for anyone’s sobriety, but I will tell you that he was my GUIDE on the path. As times change, so do the techniques. Duf offered me the chance, and made it clear that it might be my last. Thanks again, Gene. I took the path, and remain there today, thanks to Duffy’s Myrtledale, and my Higher Power! -Freddy, No. Cal.
Date: Jun 3, 2009
I went into treatment at Cache Creek Lodge, Hummingbird Hollow back in 1989, and while I was there, I remember the director at that time, Stu Driver talking about Gene Duffy and his treatment center called Duffy’s, he spoke very fondly of both. I wish I could say that I stayed sober since then, but I had not been thoroughly convinced, so I had to go and do some more research. On May 15, 2006 I entered Duffy’s, I stayed for 28 days by the grace of God and the excellent staff and I have remained sober since then. I would like to say that if you want to change your life, Duffy’s will change your life for the better. I met so many wonderful people there and one of my very best friends there. The staff at Duffy’s really care. I wish I could have met Duf, but his legacy lives on through his treatment center and his videos. Thank you for giving me a new lease on life! I just celebrated my 3yr birthday. Staying sober in No. Cal -Bernice G.
Date: May 20, 2009
I am the grandson of Betty Albright, a friend of Gene's, and also a friend of Bill W. for 44 years! She passed in '91. After my training as a counselor, in 1980 I returned to the Bay Area and found, among the 12-Step community, it seemed almost everyone knew my grandmother. She was a guest at Duffy's on a few occasions, and had referred many clients. --- I am not in recovery, but I am a counselor, specializing in alcohol-crisis intervention among difficult populations. After thirty-years in my field, I believe that Duffy's is among the very best programs in the country. It provides a safe, supportive, and serene environment for those who need detox or who are beginning their recovery. Duffy's 28-day program is restorative, while providing steps and strategies for more comfortably maintaining sobriety. And it remains the best place to be for relapse prevention or intervention.-Brian Kuester, EMT, Cert. Substance Abuse Counselor-III
Date: May 15, 2009
As a grateful member of Alanon for a number of years, I just want you to know how much I love just my daily walks by your facility when I vacation in Calistoga every spring. Your sign "together they shared their experience, strength and hope". . .daily centers me and brings me serenity. I think of the courage of the people behind your beautiful white fence and find gratitude. So, thanks for that sign and your work. -Susie F.
Date: May 12, 2009
Quick update. Still Sober from my time at Duffy's. Especially thankful for the persons (family) there at Duf's that saved my life. Thanks Staff. I love all of you.-Jerry
Date: May 4, 2009
I have been clean and sober since Jan 1, 1983. Going to Duffy’s for the first 2 years of my sobriety to go for the sobriety weekend was a great part of my sobriety. The peace and quiet was all I needed. The place taught me that I didn't have to stay in my circumstances to figure out any problems. To just get away from them and come here was such a release. And being able to talk to others, attend the meetings and of course go into town and shop was very therapeutic for me. I was able to come back home with a much clearer mind, some answers and also some choices. This is a great way to get away from it all. And the people? What can I say? They are the greatest. And old man Duffy? Yes, I sat and listened to him many times. But as I can only say, this has been my experience. I just have to say don't take my word for it, but check it out for yourself. And don't forget where you go, God will be there also. Happy Sobriety-Marilyn
Date: April 7, 2009
If you are in recovery, this is the place for a weekend stay. You continue to learn, serve and have fellowship. Share your sobriety with others, meet new friends from other areas and you will never be alone. The surroundings are great as are staff and all the people there. Whether you have short or long term sobriety, refreshen it at Duffy's. It's getting through the worst of time and the best of time in sobriety by the grace of God and getting out of self. 18 years and 6 days today. It's a good life.- Sandra, West Sacramento.
Date: April 6, 2009
In the mid 80's, it was my pleasure & privelege to attend a meeting where Gene was the Speaker in Dekalb, IL. I learned Duf got sober in Dekalb and helped build many of the Northern Illinois University buildings. Duf had shared that during a detox period, he had been a patient at the Elgin Mental Hospital. When the building was torn down in the early 90's, I obtained a brick from that structure and sent it to Duf. He sent me a warm Thank You. I enjoy receiving the "Hummer", great reading, keeps Duf and his experiences close. Thanks for allowing me to share. Respectfully, With Love in Service -Jerry P
Date: April 7, 2009
If you are in recovery, this is the place for a weekend stay. You continue to learn, serve and have fellowship. Share your sobriety with others, meet new friends from other areas and you will never be alone. The surroundings are great as are staff and all the people there. Whether you have short on long term sobriety, refreshen it at Duffy's. It's getting through the worst of time and the best of time in sobriety by the grace of God and getting out of self. 18 years and 6 days today. It's a good life. - Sandra, West Sacramento
Date: January 28, 2009
Duffys saved my life. Coming up on 4 years clean and sober. Incredible program. -Eddie F
Date: January 15, 2009
I have spent one week at Duf's, and a weekend following 30 clean days.
The week was great, and the return weekend was even better. I shall return to
conquer the steps when I hit a hard spot, and feel a great deal of comfort and support at Duffy's. Most of all,
I can find my true self at this spot. The staff, counselors, and chefs are extraordinary, and I think of the place each day.
- Still alive after 67 days, Randy, Gualala, CA
Date: January 10, 2009
Heard about Duffy and had a chance to hear his experience, strength and hope thanks to this wonderful man "Galen." I said hi, and I
said someday I would love for you to meet my father and he said I did and laughed. As tears were running down, I say this today
because those two men had given me hope and faith about loving one another in open arms and no matter what were never alone. Because
of this I have 12 years clean and dreams come true, thanks Duffy!
Date: December 31, 2008
As I entered Duffy's as sick and tired of being sick and tired as anyone could be. I had 14 years sobriety and relapsed for 11 months.
Now as I am about to celebrate my 2nd year on Jan 5 I thank God everyday that I went to Duffy's. I was one more drink away from death
and entered a quiet, shy, emotional cripple and left vibrant, full of life and hopes for the future. I have been back for Sobriety
week-ends many times and leave rejoiced and refreshed. I got my one year chip at Duffy's along with two of my friends (fellow guest)
and it was like getting an Oscar. I am saddened that this year I will stand alone to get my two year chip. We are all just one drink
away from insanity or death. My friend is back at Duffy's which is a Godsend and he will recover again and he will have hope and
dreams again. How many chances do we get? Only God knows and it is not my desire to test him. I am blessed to have each day begin anew
with each hour of sobriety things are coming together. Thank you Connie, Patrick, lori and Pat E for your continuing friendship. -Elaine, San Mateo CA
Date: December 15, 2008
Hello all I thank God for Duffy's and the staff for the care and concern the have for all of with our serious
problems. I have ben clean for over seventeen years and still going strong. i pray for all those who still suffer from addiction that
they find the light. God bless Duffy's and the staff.
- Ed A. San Bruno, Ca.
Date: December 8, 2008
Seventeen years of sobriety feels great. Thanks to the staff at Duffy's and Gene Sr. for starting the program that has helped so many
lead a clean and sobar life free from the poison of demon rum. Duffy's will always be a part of my life of sobriety. God Bless.
-ED A. San Bruno, Ca.
Date: November 27, 2008
On October 18, 2003 I floated into Duffy's with out the ability to differentiate the true from the false, strung out, & emotionally
bankrupt. I was Detoxed and introduced to a better way. Duffy's was my 3rd treatments center and the most practical. It was made real
clear that it wasn't the end yet the beginning of a new way of life. By simply putting one foot in front of the other I have been put
in touch with a power greater than myself that has solved my problem. Thank You!
-Lance B. (Petaluma, CA --> Reno, NV).
Date: November 17, 2008
I checked into Duffy's on the 7th of August 2008. After a 35 day stay, and thanks to the WONDERFUL staff along with A.A. & N.A., I
have been clean & sober since. If you are reading this and thinking about checking into Duffy's of think you may have a problem with
drugs or alcohol, Duffy's is the place to go. They know what they are doing and treat every guest with care and respect. I am very
greatful to Duffy's for giving me the tools to live life day by day...Clean & Sober.
Date: November 6, 2008
I came to Duffy's in late June 1993 seeking hope for a better life. Clean and sober for 10 years. Moved out of the sonoma area to
Sacramento. Some of lifes challenge I starting slipping away, finding myself back where I was once before. In the back of my mind I
didn't want to go there. remembering the 28 days at Duffy's an how my life change so much than. But I knew this time I would have to
do something so different in order stay clean and sober, I would need to start helping other. Just like Bill W. did. I am currently
going to college to become an AOD Counselor (CADC I ) Since I have started school once again my life started to change. I am looking
forward to be able to help other with addition as well as my own. - BARBARA D.
Date: November 6, 2008
I checked out of Duffy's today, November 6th, 2008 as a completely different person than I was 28 days ago. I can't thank them enough
for everything they did for me. I highly recommend this facility to anybody in need of treatment. Thanks Duffy's, for helping me get
my life back!
Date: October 1, 2008
I was sent to Duffy's by the court system 15 years ago and have not had a drink since! I had no intention of staying
clean and sober when I went in, but through the program I found a way. I have had one, one day, slip with marijuana in that time which
showed me very clearly what I do not want. Duffy's worked miracles in my life and just looking at this website brings it all back. it
is one place on earth I WILL NEVER FORGET. Thank you all for your work. -Dottie R. Ferndale. CA
Date: August 10, 2008
Didn't want to go... But after spending my month their I really got a chance to see myself. Thanks to everybody at Duffy's. - Greg P.
Date: June 6, 2008
Heard Duffy speak at West Bay Alano Club in Daly City, circa 1985,
he was the best. As we were coming down the stairs we were laughing
at how Irish folk probably make up most of AA. He reminds me of
something George Bernard Shaw said: When you tell people the truth,
you better make 'em laugh or they'll want to kill you. Yes indeed,
that would be Mr. Duffy. Duffy Jr. you spoke awhile later and I'll
never forget how you shared the story of being newly sober and was
sent to the store by your wife to buy a cake mix and frosting for a
birthday cake. How clearly you expressed your panic of all the
choices you had to
make! You had us laughing till tears ran. I
think of your story when I become overwhelmed when faced with
choices and I'm reminded not to take myself so seriously. You taught
me that life is too important to take seriously. You're a righteous
dude.
- Blessed be, Melissa R., Everett, WA
Date: June 4, 2008
Thanks to Duffy's I have been sober almost 3 yrs. My life is
enriched in every aspect. I am forever grateful for the 28 days I
spent there. Linda S., No. Calif.
Date: May 14, 2008
I got to read a "Hummer" newsletter today. I love it and came here
to subscribe to it. This whole organization just makes my heart
smile! Thank you to absolutely everyone for what you do! God Bless
you always.
Date: April 14, 2008
IT has been sober living , starting April 29th 1981 , Thanks to
Duffy's for the start. - Bob F. San Francisco CA
Date: March 12, 2008
March 2008 My experience at Duffy's was amazing. After the initial
detox, it was the happiest I've been in a long time. I loved
learning about myself, hearing the wisdom from the staff, and
meeting all the amazing people who were in my group. Duffy's helped
me reconnect with my Higher Power and for that I will always be
grateful. I miss being there! Watching the sunset off the front
porch, walking around the pond first thing in the morning, sitting
in the
grotto and just being..... even drying pots and pans! I
hope to see you guys very soon...but as a Sobiety Weekender, I wont
be checking in! I love you all, Elise E.
Date: March 6, 2008
On February 1, 2007 I was brought in without one idea of the new life
your facility was going to provide me the tools to live by. After 20
plus years of alcoholic denial, i was the one who was not going to make
it much longer in life. Now one year later i can only say thanks to the
entire group: Shannon, Eloise, Patrick and Connie for showing me the way
to a better life. My gratitude list places Duffy's at the top and my
time there will always be responsible
for the life i now live and
the lives my children and wife will be able to enjoy as well. The
program you provided works and i will be forever grateful.--
Jerry Mitchell., Reno, Nv.
Date: March 2, 2008
Went to Duffy's for a Sobriety Weekend when I was 14 years sober and
hurting a lot. Gene Duffy took me aside and told me I would be OK,
as he and many others had all gone thru this type of thing after
being sober awhile. His help, as well as John's (deceased sober) got
me thru this most difficult time. On December 15,2007 I celebrated
37 years sober. I relay all this to let those also walking this path
that they can do it. I've spent more than one sobriety weekend at
Duffy's. Don't let that ego keep you from going there------you just
might help someone else. I remember the Hummers-----do you still use
them?
Robert P. Dublin CA.
Date: January 12, 2008
My first day at Duffy's was December 7,2005. I have been sober ever
since. I think of you all everyday. I miss Duffy's very much and
cannot wait to visit. Thank you all so so much. It has been the best
thing I have ever done for myself.
Date: January 3, 2008
My son is now at Duffy's (Jan
2008) and I am not only praying for him but also the entire group. I
love your online site and the story of how the center
began. -
CB, Scranton PA.
Date: December 1, 2007
On September 13 1995 my new life began. I am very grateful to have
found such a great place with such great people to end 25 years of
misery.
- Thank You So Much, Arne Anderson
Date: October 9, 2007
Just a word of thanks to the staff and program at Duffy's who lead
me in the right direction 8 years ago tomorrow. Missed seeing Gene
Sr. live but the videos captured his powerful message that hit me
right between the eyes. - Thank you, Tim A., Morada,
California
Date: September 10, 2007
A Beautiful, Spiritual place. I was honored to spend 28 days @
Duffy's in 1995. I went to try to avoid jail. I was still in denial.
While being there "for the wrong reasons" I was lucky enough to have
received something that was the start of my recovery. I have not had
a drink in 12 years. I do consider myself, even today an alcoholic.
I do have and continue to seek some tools that are helping me to
recover; including to spread "the word". Thank you
everyone at
Duffy's for the unselfish things you have continued to do for some
50 years. Again, It has been an honor and a privilege. -
Dave "lava 53" an alcoholic
Date: September 8, 2007
Gene told me the Third Pertinent Idea just might save my life. To
take a series of actions I didn't believe in. To trust in His God, because I
didn't have one, and great events would come to pass. I completed Steps 4&5
when I was 8 days Sober. I was told if I didn't, I was a dead man. It was
His action, I was only willing. I Thank You, Sir 5,601 days on the Sunny
Side of the Street. Beyond My wildest expectations. Russ S. - Long
Beach, CA
Date: August 22, 2007
My odyssey started back in '98. I came to Duffy's looking to get out
of trouble. They gave me my life back. I just passed my 9th year sober. I
have respect and the admiration of my peers and not because I have something
other people want but because I can be counted on . THATS THE BEST!! Thanks
for all your support thru those dark nights.
- Roger M. Somewere
in Cali
Date: August 12, 2007
On this day in 1974 - by God's grace and my stay at Duffy's, I have
been clean and sober 33 years. Thank you for being there! -
Karen E. Eureka, California
Date: July 13, 2007
Long ago, in California, I had the privilege of attending a meeting
wherein Duffy was the main speaker. One day at a time, it has been it
has been sober living for over 28 years. Duffy, you have not been
forgotten. - Jim R., Las Vegas, Nevada
Date: July 4, 2007
I am happy to read all this success: you deserve it completely. Proud to
work with you in Boston, next June. Please, take all the good thoughts
streaming from my heart to you.
Date: June 2, 2007
It was Wednesday, early morning, just before sunlight on Dec. 1, 1982 I took
off to Duffys from Fairfield Ca. I had been up all night drinking "for the
last time" knowing I had this chore ahead of me. I was "one eyeing it"
driving down the road, when all of a sudden I saw that sun rise over the
mountains. I'll never forget it because at that time I began to cry. Not
because I was sorry for myself or anything like that. I began to cry cause I
knew, right then, God had brought me to this point in my life. It was then
that I ask him once again to help me. And it was then for the first time I
felt God's love come over me and I knew all was going to be ok. Next thing I
knew, I was at Duffy's, in a meeting still drunk but mostly "sick and tired
of being sick and tired". I was determined to finish that first meeting but
I couldn't. How pitiful I must of looked, sitting there. They had shown me
my bed when I first got there and some how I found it. I woke up that
evening very hungry and very embarrassed. They made me feel at ease and told
me I was not the only one that made a drunk, first appearance. I ate supper,
did some paperwork then sat in the living room. That's when I saw him, Duffy
Sr., for the first time. What a character, I thought to myself. What could
this guy possibly say or do that would help me. He looked like a wino from
my old neighborhood in St. Louis and he was loud as hell. I couldn't believe
I've put all my eggs in this clown's basket. But you know what? I was
thinking like the fool that I was. God allowed Duffy Sr. to go through all
he went through, just to help a drunken soul like me. The more I listen to
him the more I realized, he was one of the wisest men I ever heard. He had
the knowledge only a wino could have. He had the toughness only a street
wise person could have. He had the knowhow to help a drunk like me and many
others. And he had the heart only a God fearing man could have. He set out
to save his own life and in doing so he saved many. He truly, SAVED MY LIFE!
And when we pass, all will see him in heaven with all of God's servants.
Thank you God and Thank you Mr. Gene Duffy Sr. 25 years sober this December,
2007.
-Chester Green, Vacaville, CA
Date: July 1, 2007
My father went to Duffy's around 1990. I remember how he seemed proud,
though not boastful, as he was able to help another man through his DTs. I
was grateful for it had given me my father back after years of serious daily
drunkenness. He did not stay sober unfortunately. I found this site after
having input my family members name in Google. It would seem the world of
recovery is a small one indeed. Though I have not been to Duffy's, I too am
an alcoholic. I am in AA and have been for almost 7 years. I was the GSR and
currently am attempting DCM like it is stated further down. Service keeps
you coming back. -- Bless you all, Patrick Casey, Richmond, CA
Date: June 23, 2007
In April 1990, out of options, I called Duffy's for help. 28 days later I
had a new way of living, thanks to Duff, the grotto, and 35 drunks with less
than 30 days sober. Seventeen years later I still carry Duffy's simple
approach to sobriety with me everywhere I go. And I quote Duffy in meetings
all the time! Thank God for AA, Gene Duffy, and my Myrtledale home.
-Barry Collins, Grass Valley, CA.
Date: June 5, 2007
I attended Duffys this year for the 28 day program. It has changed my life.
You are taught all the tools that you need for a healthy recovery. All you have
to do is use them. Life is not great right at this moment, but it is a 100 times
better than it was before I came to Duffys. Life is still going to happen on
life's terms. I can deal with all the ups and downs without turning to drugs or
alcohol. I see a bright future for myself and my relationships with my friends
and loved ones. I appreciate the Duffys family and all their staff. -
THANK YOU, LDM
Date: May 22, 2007
I thank you and thank you for my children-going to be celebrating 8 years in
June-you gave all of us a new beginning. - Thanks, Dana
Date: May 2, 2007
My name is Bob Colman. I have been to your establishment five times for
treatment back in the 70s. Been sober for 27 yrs and live in Maui Hawaii for the
last 19 yrs. Thanks to Gene Duffy. May God rest his soul. I love the Hummer for
all these years. -Love, Bob
Date: May 1, 2007
I remain forever grateful for my experiences at Duffys. By Gods Grace and this
simple program we are looking at 15 years sober. Duff Senior was hard nosed and
that is what this snot nose kid needed at the time. The no nonsense approach to
the crisis in my life had enabled me to WAKE UP to the Great Reality. Today.
Life is a wonderful journey. Free of fear and worry. Free from the bondage of
self. Free from the obsession of alcoholism. - Kevin B.
Date: April 25, 2007
On April 18, 1991, I checked into Duffys, had to use that day to get out of bed
so clean date is April,19 1991. Just celebrated 16 years. Somehow you convinced
me on what to do to stay clean after the 28 days. I pretty much followed all
your suggestions and not only stayed clean, but have liven a dream life ever
since. Gene Sr was alive then and I am honored to have been able to spend time
with him. - Thank you, Fred Salmon
Date: April 20, 2007
Thanks to your staff I have been able to stay clean and sober for over 15 years.
I am still going strong and staying clean. Bless you all. - Ed A. San
Bruno, Ca.
Date: April 4, 2007
The website is awesome and very informative.
Date: April 2, 2007
Hey Dirk I still have that Coffee Cup Holder you made for my car in 93 still
sober too. If you get to the bay area come see us at the Grumpy Old Men's
meeting AKA the end of the bridge group Friday nights in San Lorenzo -
Chris
Date: March 31, 2007
dirk, good to know your still sober. i was working there when you made the
signs. I heard you spoke at Duffy's a while back. love to see you again. i have
24 years on April 1st. I live in Middletown now. great aa there. love to have
you come and speak there. - mike m
Date: March 17, 2007
14 Years ago, when I made the entrance signs for Gene, I told him that if he
ever came in and the signs were chain sawed down, he would know I went back to
drinking. It is good to see the signs still standing, as am I, thanks to Dufs. -
Dirk D.
Date: January 30, 2007
I just want to say that I hope I will get to visit and do some step work.
Sincerely Kristen
Date: January 26, 2007
I would like to know if Gene Duffy helped Suzanne Somers as I see in her book
she thanks Duffy.
Date: January 12, 2007
I was there twice. Great site and program, Gene was alive and it was 700 week
shocked at new cost, but I was there 15 years ago
Date: December 22, 2006
Knew I was alcoholic but I fought off AA for many years until I was dragged all
the way from my home in London to Duffy's in March 1999. Following a supervised
detox, I sat down in the Duffy's dining room for my first AA meeting. I have not
had a drink since that day.
I am grateful to the staff and my fellow 'inmates' for starting my recovery with
those 28 days of crucial baby steps.
Bob R.
By the way, I was going to visit Duffy's the last time I was in the Bay Area,
but that morning turned out to be Sept 11, 2001, and I guess everyone's plans
changed that day...
Date: December 8, 2006
Thank you for being there for me when I had given up hope. I thank God and your
staff for my being clean and sober all these years. I now am happily retired
with a home and a new car with many thanks again to Duffys for being there for
me and all those who had given up hope. I can still see Gene Sr. on his weekly
visits pulling the questions and comments out of the fishing creel that hangs in
the dining room. God bless you all. Ed A. San Bruno, Ca.
Date: November 6, 2006
My 26 year old daughter is entering tomorrow . I am a child of an alcoholic and
now a mother of one. I will do everything in my power to assist her in her
recovery. I want to be one of those who writes after many years that it saved
her life. God bless. -Kathy
Date: October 2, 2006
Dear Duffys, I was there 1 year ago and I am still sober, thank you for your
help.
Date: August 30, 2006
Hi My name is Jan and I am an Alcoholic. 25 years ago I began my sobriety at
Duffys. I was a bright eyed, snot nose drunk at the tender age of 26. Duffy and
Myrtledale saved my life. I have been happily, successfully sober ever since.
There was nothing about your Center, treatment, or counselors that was not top
notch in 1981. I can only imagine that it has gotten better over the years, kind
of like me. I am so glad I have found your Website. I think of you often. I live
in the foothills east of Sacramento now and hope to come by for a visit someday.
Warmest regards, Jan, Volcano, Ca
Date: August 4, 2006
My dear friend is leaving Duffys today and I thank you for all you have done for
him and with him. Willingness is the key. I am gratefully praying for him, the
generous man who sent him to you and me...three years ago today was my last
drink. God has blessed us all.
Date: August 3, 2006
My Mom just dropped my brother off at Duffys the other day. Prior to his arrival
at Duffys, he didn't have the highest of hopes, but without even saying
anything, I know his outlook on life has changed - even if just a little. He is
such a smart and talented guy and deserves to have a beautiful life. I hope that
Duffy s will be able to give him the help and tools needed to obtain that. After
reading all of these wonderful comments, I honestly believe that my big brother
has a chance. God Bless all of you wonderful people there that are willing to
help individuals like my brother. We love him with all of our hearts.
Date: August 2, 2006
My son is there now He doesn't have hope Please help him Don't let him give up,
I love him so much.
Date: July 12, 2006
I taped a lot of your talks over 35 anyway. Any time Duffy would be in the bay
area I was there. I stayed at Duffy for a weekend just to get away from the
hustle and bustle of city life. I have a great time even if it was 24 years ago.
I now live in Roseburg OR. But think of Duffy often. I will be 25 Feb 14 2007 do
you have Birthday Meetings it would mean a lot for me to get that chip at
Duffys. My name is Irene and I am an alcoholic - Thank you Duffy
Date: July 2, 2006
I stayed with you in Nov. 2004 and found my new life. I had that pink cloud for
about 4 month and made a mistake in getting married, but know it is all good and
we have moved on with our lives. You guys taught me how to deal with tough
situations and I learned a great deal about my spirituality. All I need is to
know how work it and to use the tools given to me. I cannot thank you enough for
that. Thanks again - Scot Johnson 11-17-2004
Date: June 2, 2006
Thanks to everyone at Duffys for helping me get back to recovery. I just
celebrated one year clean and I feel grateful for all the people I met their and
the life that has been provided to me. I would like to return soon to visit for
two days and even like to do some work with others if that would be ok.
Brian Laliberty
Date: June 1, 2006
Duffys saved my life I miss it miss everyone and am so grateful to have been
part of this experience I look forward to my life today - Erica D
Date: May 19, 2006
Thank you for giving our family hope. We just dropped of a very special, and
very loved person.
Date: May 1, 2006
Please take care of my friend. He just checked in today and he is very scared,
but seems ready to commit to this life change. Thank you.
Date: April 29, 2006
THE HUMMER just arrived and I wondered if the Golf Classic information would be
there. Not that I have any interest in registering, but every year since I spent
three life altering weeks at Duffys, THE HUMMER has arrived on a regular basis
and the tournament takes place every year. Just knowing that Duffys endures, the
golf tournament continues, and THE HUMMER will be in my mailbox next quarter, I
am able to trust that worthwhile things, and there are many others as well,
endure. I love entertaining the idea that everyday people are leaving Duffys and
going out into the world to live, truly live a life that was meant for them all
along. That is how it happened for me. The foundation for my sobriety was built
at Duffys and loving sisters at Myrtletowne. Survivors nurtured me to build and
maintain a life perspective that works every day. Am getting a wee bit carried
away, but I suppose that happens when the sense of gratitude prevails. So thanks
to you Duffy, I know you are kindly bossing people around where you are, Gene,
Steve, Ruth, such great meals, Joan Simmons, Don, and Mary. Life is good and has
been for quite some time. Pam Cavanagh, Arcata, Ca
Date: April 26, 2006
You saved my life, Diane G
Date: April 22, 2006
Please look out for my sister. I pray that she follows through and get and stays
sober. We love her with all out hearts. She has a great life ahead and I know
she will realize it when she gets out. Thank you to Duffys for helping her to
realize that. Sounds like a lot of people fall back, but if personal desire
counts for anything, I know you will succeed. I love you.
Date: April 19, 2006
You come highly recommended by all who know about you. I first heard of you many
years ago in AA meetings.
Date: March 27, 2006
My daughter is a current resident at Duffy's and I want to thank you very much
for taking her in and hopefully saving her life. I pray to have my daughter back
and to have her back in her boy's life as the great mom she was before drugs
took over her life. I have seen a change already and am excited. I also had my
sister-in-law go thru your treatment program and she's doing great. God bless
you all for your hard work and dedication. The Carty Family!
Date: February 20, 2006
Thanks for being there! Donna class of 76
Date: January 28, 2006
Valentines Day I will be celebrating my first year birthday!!!!!! With many more
to follow.... Thank you all so much for all that you did to guide me through
that first 28 days. Funny how it seems just like yesterday. Thanks again to all
of you. - Laurie H
Date: January 23, 2006
I met some great people at Duffy's, who shared their experience, strength and
hope with a pathetic drunk named Russ, when he had no hope. Yesterday, I
celebrated 5,000 days sober. A day at a time and I can't take credit for a
single one. Because Gene spent some time with me,when I was new, I found a God
of my very own understanding.
Date: Jan 10, 2006
Back in 1989 I was at my bottom. I think about that alot. If everybody stops and
thinks about exactly what happens there I think they wouldn't mind so much about
money. Most people enter at there at their lowest point in their lives and you
people get to put them back together again. Amazing, simply amazing. gotta be a
tough job! (Even in 30 days)Thank You! I wouldn't want anyone else doing it. It
worked for me. I kind a wished you kept your records a little longer though. I
remember it being a converted race horse ranch or something like that. Right?
Whatever it was you got it all together now. Thanks for a "New Beginning". Edwin
G. Carlson Sacramento Ca.
Duffy's Reply: Hi Edwin... Thanks
for the post. No, it wasn't a converted Horse ranch, although, early in the
1980's we had cows, chickens, pigs, pheasants, turkeys which were really a major
pain in the butt, but Duf wanted to create a "farm" feel around here. I remember
him telling me "Many of these people have never seen a chicken before, let alone
pick the eggs up from the nests in the morning." And people loved gathering eggs
in the morning, we would get up to 15 dz some mornings. You might have the horse
ranch idea from one of Dufs talks where he used a board as a prop and the theme
of the board was "The Horse Race" where he talked about his time living on skid
row in Chicago and working in the Harness race stables. Anyways, thanks for the
trip down nostalgia lane. -Gene Duffy
Date: January 1, 2006
I went through Duffy's twice - first time in March 1994 (I wasn't ready or
willing enough yet) and again in November 1994 and haven't had a drink since
then. I have fond memories of Duffy's - my stay(s) gave me a great foundation
and jump start into recovery. But ... 28 days is not all it takes to stay sober
(for me). Staying sober is contingent on continuing to do what was recommended
in treatment - attend AA meetings, work with others, have a sponsor, try to
practice the principles of the program. Otherwise I doubt that I would still be
sober. Much love and best of luck to all of you, Christy C. from Fair Oaks, CA
Date: November 15, 2005
In 1986 a scared 17 year old girl checked into your facility and was introduced
to the miracle of recovery. Today, God and Irene willing I am 2 months short of
20 years sober. I still remember being told that if I would go to "those
meetings" and read the "little blue book" and work "those 12 steps" my whole
life has changed. I still don't know how that works, I still don't know why that
works. But what I do know is that it DOES WORK. My life today is living proof of
it. Much love to you Steve, Gene and Debbie. It has been too long. And Gene Sr.
remains in my heart everyday. Blessings, Irene T
Date: November 15, 2005
I see this board has some comments that need addressing. No, Betty Ford doesn't
own Duffys..It is, as it has always been, owned by the Duffy family. When my
father died, his 51% of the business was divided amongst his sons and grandkids.
The other 49% was already owned by the boys. (Gene, Mike & Steve). from the time
the business formed a corporation in 1975. Gene & his wife Debbie run the place.
Gene has worked at Duffys since 1980, while Debbie started at Duffys in 1971.
Sorry about the increase in prices, but that's a whole different story. But I do
have to say, insurance costs, liabilities, wages and health insurance for our
employees are what drives the cost of our treatment. Hope this clears it up for
you... Gene Duffy
Date: November 1, 2005
Duffy's Saved my life! No doubt in my mind!!! Where I was nine months ago and
where I am today are on separate ends of the spectrum. Thank you all so much for
helping me get my life back!!!! I couldn't have done it without you! See you
soon, Laurie H.
Date: September 5, 2005
I really enjoyed the AA mtg at Duffys 9-4-05 and was impressed with your
facility and your program. Today I am writing to your office to request being on
your mailing list to receive "The Hummer" to enhance my sobriety and that of my
friends in recovery here in San Francisco. Keep up the good work! Melanie Raney
Date: September 1, 2005
I worked at Duffy's back in 92 when Gene was still alive. Great place and great
man. I have 22 years of sobriety now, and it still works just as Gene Sr.
taught us all then. I miss him. Kassa, I remember you, good to see your still
sober. - Mike M
Date: August 4, 2005
I hope! Before I came there I had no hope. So thank you for giving me that!!
Steve S
Date: August 3, 2005
I owe my life to Duffy's. After about 5-6 days of going to classes, I was
introduced to something called "tools" . By just being exposed to them, I felt
like I would be able to go home at that point. I expressed that to the group,
and they all, without humiliating me began to laugh out loud, I mean out loud. I
truly though I was able to survive with just the knowledge of these tools. Thank
you to everyone there, staff and mostly residents, I was able to make the next
23 days, an apprenticeship so to speak, with using my tools.
I left there and immediately tried to use one more time after getting home. I
found out it was true, you pick up where you left off. And, I left off at a
pretty miserable place. I applied what I learned there from you all, and for the
past 27 months, I have been clean and sober continuously. I got into service on
the helpline in Sacramento, and have had about 10 opportunities to chair
meetings. If you are reading this, then I know you might understand what Duffy's
is all about. Like quite a few people I have met in the program, they want to
open up a facility to rehabilitate people. Duffy's is by far my "model" for the
facility I wish to create. Any way to give back is the way to recovery.
I found out also that 18 months of being clean doesn't mean I had 18 months of
recovery. But now is the best time in my life. I wouldn't change my past a bit
or I wouldn't be where I am at now. Thank you to Duffy's and remember that about
1 person a year (out of the group you were there with) will die as a result of
going back out!! DO NOT LET IT BE YOU!! Respectfully Submitted, Steve S.
Date: July 19, 2005
Duffys has saved my life. This program is the best and the staff couldn't have
been any better. Thank you very much and looking forward to a weekend stay. -
Manuel Azevedo
Date: July 7, 2005
Thanks again Duffys for all the help with Leann, she is doing good.
Date: March 11, 2004
August 22, 1974 I hopefully had my last drink "Hummer" at Duffy's. I thank God
for Duffy, Jack, Jeannie, Don, Mary and Wishbone for being there for me. God
bless the staff and all who have had the privilege of sitting on the front porch
... at Duffy's. (March 11, 2004) Karen
Date: February 11, 2004
Hello, got a call from a dear sober family friend, who needed a referral for a
recovery facility in the northbay. Of course, I told her Duffy's! My mom, Ali,
spent so many years in and around Duffy's, I feel like I grew up there. At her
passing she had in and around 20+ years and just celebrated 16. Looking at the
website brought back many, many cherished memories. Thanks for being there for
her and so many others. You changed our lives! - Suzi Mulliner Heron, Daughter
of Ali Mulliner
Date: January 26, 2004
I have spent many a "sobriety weekend" at Duffys!! Some of my BEST laughs were
right there on the front porch in the great rocking chairs!! What happened to
the "sobriety weekend" rates???
I was there when Patricia was still working there, and wonder...what ever
happened to her? Peace Out. - Dru O.
Date: December 15, 2003
Thank you for nine years. I am sad to see Ruth retire, weekends will not be the
same.
Date: November 20, 2003
I am impressed with your web-site. You came highly recommended by our parish
priest as a possible place for a family member who has alcohol addiction and we
are seeking treatment and probable intervention. We are looking at two or three
options, thank you for a great site.
Date: November 17, 2003
Gene Jr., I decided to look up a web site for you--and i found it!!!!! The last
time I saw you was at Gene Sr. (duffs) funeral. Such a loss. My last time there,
besides working there, was feb. 1982....been sober ever since. Things are well I
hope? I hope you remember me.. The "duffer" at your golf tournaments. I'm now in
Washington, in port orchard, retired and very active still in aa. I'm my groups'
gsr. Always of service and stay involved that�s the most successful program. It
seems to work for me, plus a very active program in my church. I now have a 11
year old son that I�m trying to raise. His mother, carlene casey, died of her
addiction a year ago today. (ironic) nothing like being a single father,
retired, and active most of the time. God be with you all..I�m sure the staff
has changed, but I can almost see who they are.. God bless - Alan Stanley
Date: November 4, 2003
My dear mom spent many times with you. I am planning on coming soon and I know I
will be able to make it work for me where it did not for her. - KT, San
Fransisco, Ca
Date: October 12, 2003
I completed my program back in 93. It was the key to unlocking my future in all
levels; personal, family and career. Now with a sad heart I bring a very very
close family member to find the magic and healing of Duffys. I pray that the
power of the program will touch his heart as it did mine and bring forth the
riches of this great life we are given. May all of our brothers and sister
prosper too.
Date: June 17, 2003
Just had my seven years on June 4th. Duffy's was my first and only treatment
center for my addictions. It opened my mind to listen and learn how to take
directions. It showed me that I never have to do it alone. I have my higher
power, my sponsor and the fellowship. What a gift! All I have is today. John
Fields S.F. fellowship
Date: June 13, 2003
Your web site touched my heart and brought back comforting memories. You and
your staff saved my life, and my children's as well. For this I am forever
grateful. Keep up the wonderful work. Four years sober - Dana Hilliard
Date: May 19, 2003
Your Center comes highly recommended to me from "Miss Jo". I wish my partner had
taken advantage of your site when he lived up there, only a month ago. Now I
find treatment centers have closed in the bay area. One quote was $8,000 for a
two day detox at peninsula hosp. You have to be rich to participate!
Date: April 9, 2003
It was suggested to me that if I went to Duffy's I would feel safe...I would
feel Love and that I could get on the right track. When I arrived I knew I was
in the right place. I was instantly pulled to an arch which I now refer to as
the prayer cave and the words "God would if he were sought" drew me in...and I
prayed and my burden was lifted. I only stayed seven (7) days but I stayed in
prayer and followed the suggestions and humility and serenity came to me. I am
grateful to the people who gave to me so that I may give back what I so freely
received. - Archie Y. email - God's Child
Date: March 11, 2003
I detoxed for 2 weeks at Duffy's many years ago. Through the murder of my son,
and divorces, I have never needed another drink. Many times I hopped on the
Greyhound for a "Sobriety Weekend." "Wishbone" was the cook, and Mary, Don were
also on staff. Another tall, thin, sweet man gave me hopefully my last drink at
11 pm August 22, 1974. And of course Duffy himself. May God bless all of you as
you endeavor to share your strength and hope with others. I don't know where I
would be without Duffy's. If Duffy is still with us, give him my love from the
Eureka, CA. - karen dutton
Date: March 8, 2003
THOMAS R. BYRD, Please keep me on your mailing list as I enjoy reading through
your publication. I also was a guest six or seven times, signed in with an X and
saw it snow on the local mountaintops. Gene once kicked my foot as I was
regenerating at the pool and said, "this is a place for guys who can't make it
on the outside" Clean & Sober
Date: March 7, 2003
I am a long term member of Narcotics Anonymous and a Professional in the
field of Addiction Treatment and Recovery. Duffy Program graduates have been my
friends, teachers and sponsors. A former sponsee just called me to say he is in
the Program and clean three days. I wept with joy that he is safe again and
beginning his recovery in good hands. Thanks for being there. - Jimmy K
Berkeley, CA
Date: March 3, 2003
Hi....I got sober at Duffy's on July 25 1992. This July I will have 11 years of
sobriety and it all began there in Calistoga, under a sign which I knew nothing
of. I thought it was a cool sign, though...so cool that I took a picture of a
few of the other sober people standing beneath it....The sign reads "They shared
their experience, strength and hope"....Little did I know back then how much
that would mean to me now...It brings tears to my eyes and goosebumps all over
me as I write this. Thank you.......Thank the people that were there, before,
during and after me.....Thank God - Kasa Thompson
Date: February 2, 2003
Duffy's is a fantastic treatment center with a caring and knowledgeable staff
that really go the extra mile for you. I was at Duffy's April 2002 for a 28 day
program and it was the best money ever invested. I just made 9 months sobriety
and am looking forward to my 1 yr chip which I will be coming to Duffy's to
receive. Mike Nugent, Las Vegas, Nv
Date: January 11, 2003
Great website! I have worked in the field of chemical dependency for over 20
years and had the pleasure of meeting Duffy Sr. while working for the Sacramento
Alcoholism Council way back in 1984. We lost a great friend in his passing but
I'm sure Duff is having a great time at the "Big Meeting" we all hope to get
too! Keep up the great work. I am looking forward to spending a sobriety weekend
with you soon. I need the break!!!
Your in fellowship, Julie Shreve P.S. How can I get a subscription to "The
Hummer"?
Date: January 1, 2003
I have had the opportunity to visit you're residential program, back in 1994, I
think it is so beautiful up there! I am now 2 years sober, and would recommend
you're facility to people who are seeking treatment. - Kindest Regards,
Marie Rosenfeld
Date: October 20, 2002
My name is jim p. I first went through your program in 1983 and had the pleasure
of meeting Gene D. SR. at that time. I must say his way of making me understand
that addiction is a disease that we have the ability to keep our disease in
remission if we can learn to enjoy life by appreciating what we have!
Date: September 9, 2002
It was the summer of 1999 when I came to Duffy's and really started my recovery.
The support I received was freely given and desperately needed. Of course, other
highlights were having some quiet time on a warm night to visit the ducks, and
meeting a lot of nice people struggling with the same disease as me. Thank you
Duffy's for being there. - Vicki Enbom, San Bruno, CA
Date: August 29, 2002
This is a great informational web-site! Thank you for being there for people for
so many years. You have a wonderful reputation. Before I moved to California 17
years ago, I heard of Duffy's from an old friend we all called "Card-shop Ray".
Keep up the good work. Andi Gletty
Date: April 13, 2002
Your website is very informative and hopeful. We have a daughter who needs your
help. We hope to get her there for the long stay in the next couple of days. We
love her very much and it sounds like you take good care of loved ones. Thank
you in advance for your dedication. - Jess & Patricia, Boring, Oregon
Date: March 26, 2002
It's been 3 weeks since leaving Duffy's and I will say it was the best spent 28
days of my life towards my future! I can't recommend the place enough. The staff
couldn't have been any better and I miss everyone. I don't know what I expected
when I went in, but I can't say enough good things about it....Thank you for
giving me a wonderful perspective on life with the tools to accept the things I
cannot change and I'm blessed that I haven't physically felt this good in 25
years and sure haven't been as happy! I will be forever grateful...Julie M
Date: March 24, 2002
Thanks Duffy's for all your support in the form of treatment, meetings & events
like your golf tourney that keeps us coming back to see & have fun with our
friends in Recovery. - Michael & Coleen C. San Jose, CA
Date: March 15, 2002
My wife and I, I am told are one of the very few married couples that have
able to make our lives free of drug use and our marriage survived. It was 1986
when my wife and I entered Duffy's. It was and still is a vivid part of our
memories. From the first day of feeling the weight had been lessened and we're
in an environment of people sharing and caring.
One of my most vivid memories is of sitting in the chicken coup early in our
stay, with what I thought at the time was the heaviest load a person could
carry, and the baby chic's would come over and climb all over my legs and into
my hands. How simple life really was, or should be. At the time, Gene Sr. was an
inspiration to us and I hope the son's or whoever is in charge today is
following in Duff's footsteps with the same caring and leadership that was there
in 1986. It is now 2002 and we're still very much married and in love. Thanks
for so much in really, such a short time. Providing a safe place for healing and
introspective thought.
*Anyone who happen to be at Duffy's in Febuary 1986, please drop us a E-mail
and say hi.
Mike/Marilyn Falsetti Central California E-mail; vvvdreams@aol.com
Date: February 15, 2005
Thanks for being there so many years ago, wonderful experience through a
terrible time in my life. Thanks for helping me get back on track. -
Suzanne Barnhouse
Date: January 31, 2002
I have sooo many good memories of sitting on the porch at Duffys'-Selling
tickets at the St Paddys Day Party....great meetings, good friends... Getting
into trouble playing "butt-darts" and "having too much fun" in sobriety. Thanks
to that Red-head Patty--Mr Duffy--for many weekends of fun in SOBRIETY! -
Dru Otten - Gridley, CA
Date: January 5, 2002
I can't say how grateful I am to Duffy's for giving me a meaningful foundation
for my recovery. I had two separate 28 day stays at Duffy's (in 1998 and
1999)and I have been sober since the second one. These past 2 1/2 years have
shown me things I never thought I would be lucky to see. Duffy's taught me all I
needed to know to stay sober (GET A SPONSOR, GO TO MEETINGS, WORK THE STEPS.)
Thank you for telling me to "keep coming back" -Carrie Armstrong Santa
Cruz, Ca
Date: January 26, 2004
I have spent many a "sobriety weekend" at Duffys!! Some of my BEST laughs were
right there on the front porch in the great rocking chairs!! What happened to
the "sobriety weekend" rates???
Date: December 27, 2001
Duffys is a miraculous place - the counselors are wise and loving; the food is
incredible; and the 12th step approach is healing and practical.
I had relapsed after 15 months and was having a really hard time getting back
on track. Duffys helped me to understand why I wanted to be sober AND what I
needed to do to stay sober.
Date: December 19, 2001
This was the best thing I have ever done for myself. It is nice to get to
know me again after 30 years. Happy Holidays to all who helped in my recovery
and ongoing sobriety. - Love, Jim Brown
Date: November 30, 2001
What a great web page. I was taken back many years as I just read all the
comments. Thank you for all the opportunities I received while doing the 28-day
program and also afterwards when I was able to work for Gene. Since that summer
of "82" I have not used or abused, thank you God. I went on to become a
missionary in New Zealand then in the mud huts of South Africa. Can you believe
I was also a pastor for the denomination I served in South Africa. God is so
good when you trust Him and obey His ways. Praise the Lord for "Duffy's
Myrtledale" Hi to Gene jr, Debbie and everyone else who remembers me. Bless all
of you. - John Shealy
Date: October 1, 2001
I sobered up June 22, 1980 after 53 years of practicing all over southern
California. Truly enjoy the Hummer and hope to receive it forever. I share it
with all my friends & babies I sponsor. Keep up the good work and God Bless A.A.
and all of you. - Candy Smith, Oak Harbor, Washington
Date: September 5, 2001
Great Place Still Sober after 10 YEARS , IT WORKS IF YOU WORK IT. It took Duff
Sr. to shape me up, I too am grateful to have gotten to know him. In the
meetings, to get my attention he would slam his hand down and call me Minnesota.
Please e-mail me if anyone went thru Duffy's at the same time Oct. 20-Nov 20??
1991 tcdoyle24@aol.com Hey are the DOGS still Alive???? - Colleen from
Minnesota
Date: September 3, 2001
Dear Duffys; Gene Sr. was one of our guest speakers at the Ontario Regional
conference in Toronto, many years ago. I was privileged to spend a few minutes
sharing with him. That time of sharing will live in my mind, till I leave, to
see him again. I have been blessed with the "Hummer" ever since that meeting.
What can A person say with such wisdom on paper? Thanks. In Florida, where I
live now, it seems the AA program[Big Book] is a listing ship. We all know, no
such thing will ever happen. Our Higher Power is running the ship. It is only
when we, striving to grow in our program, find things to pre-occupy our
meetings. The Drug problem is a good example. With it's different mind set.
There seems to be a lot of new AA's exposed to this mind set. With, it's, OK to
smoke a little pot, and take it easy, if you can't take it easy, here is a Dr.
who will give you a little "medicine" to help you settle down. It's tough for
oldies to understand the change, or the attempt at changing the Basics. Keep the good news coming, I love it. - Bill Lehman Vero Beach, Fl.
Date: August 24, 2001
Hello, I just wanted to say thanks to Duffy's for being their when I needed a
change. I never imagined being clean at all, let alone 10 years. I stepped into
the place on April 19, 1991. And left with a bag of tools that I still use. -
Thanks, Fred Salmon
Date: August 24, 2001
Hi, my name is Carol Jacinto and i am pleased to find that if i am ever in
Calistoga (which isn't that often) i can find my extended family in AA nearby
attended my first speaker meeting in the city of Stockton (where I'm from) at
the fremont fellowship (at that time was on miner ave. now on hunter st.)the
main speaker was Gene Duffy. I bought a cassette tape that night and when my
house was burglarized not long after, the tape was in the cassette player and I
was just wondering if their may be a slim chance that a copy of that particular
tape still exist somewhere at the treatment center. I believe the time frame to
be the early part of 1991. it would be greatly appreciated if somebody had the
spare time to investigate this request, would that be possible? thank you so
much. - Carol Jacinto
Date: August 21, 2001
Just got my copy of the Hummer. Every time I get one I'm flooded with memories
of my own recovery at Duffys'. But for the grace of God and my introduction to
AA from Gene D. and staff I have not had to take a drink since Dec. 1, 1975..
Keep up the GOOD work! - Richard DeLorme Eureka, CA
Date: August 19, 2001
Just received my "Hummer" and noticed the website and request to sign the
guestbook. It brought back memories reading messages from other former guests at
Duffy's. I did a 12 day stay in 1984 (and quit drinking for 1 1/2 years then
relapsed) and a 28 day stay in the summer of 1986. That one took and I've been
sober ever since.... and life is great. I was able to go back to school and get
a Masters degree, start a community newspaper which I ran for 11 years and
recently sold. I am now learning every thing I can about computers and
attempting to fly fish. If I had not found Duffy's in 1986 I am quite sure I
would not be around to post this message today. My only regret is that I was
unable to convince by twin brother to go to Duffy's. He died of alcoholism
(liver failure) on September 27, 1990 at age 38. I Thank God for placing people
like Gene Duffy, Sr. on this earth. PS.. The "Hummer" was the worst and last
drink I ever had. I understand they are no longer served due to pressure from
"those who know what's best"! Keep up the good work. - Karen K.
Date: August 19, 2001
Hello Duffys, I've been in recovery for nine years and in my third year of
recovery I participated in the Golf Classic (been back three times)and had
dinner at Duffy's. I thank God for places like Duffys ( I got mine in CAPS in
San Jose) because without these places I would be dead and never Known what
happiness was. - Michael & Coleen Coleman
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